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Why Choose Becoming Well?
We recognize that the relationship isn’t the only thing that is affected by infidelity. Our workshops and intensives are designed to address all 3 areas of recovery: the wounding partner, the wounded partner, and the relationship. We also believe in giving respect to both partners; wounding and wounded. Whether you’re coming to us to help rebuild trust in your relationship or as an individual looking to move on after infidelity, we have you covered.
Infidelity is a complex issue. It gets even more complex when you consider that every relationship is a little bit different, or sometimes vastly different, from each other. Most relationship counselors and coaches out there claiming to be infidelity experts really aren’t. They tend to be more general in their approach and often take a “cause and effect” stance on the issue. This can lead to the relationship or even the wounded partner being blamed for the infidelity. At Becoming Well, we understand that general relationship issues can’t be addressed until the trauma and the pain of infidelity has been healed. We believe in dealing with infidelity head-on and can help you gain traction in your healing journey.
Have you shared your relationship struggles with someone only to have them say things like:
“I can’t believe you would do that!”
“What’s wrong with you?”
“If I were you, I’d leave.”
“I would never put up with that.”
“I would never do that.”
The truth is, unless someone is in your shoes, they really don’t know how they would react. It’s not their place to tell you what you should and shouldn’t do in the situation. At Becoming Well, we understand that every individual and every relationship is unique. There is no cut and dry answer to every problem. We’re here to help you navigate your unique, complex situation without judgement. Our workshops and intensives are designed to help you reach your goals, not impose our own opinions on your situation.
There’s no doubt that mending from the effects of infidelity takes time and healing doesn’t happen overnight. That being said, our workshops, intensives, and workgroups are filled with the tools needed to help our clients see encouraging results quickly.
Are you wondering if you’re making a mountain out of a molehill when it comes to the pain you’ve experienced from infidelity? You’re not. At Becoming Well we recognize that infidelity creates real trauma. A traumatic event is usually perceived as life threatening to the traumatized person. Although infidelity doesn’t directly threaten a person’s life, it can threaten their way of life. Wounded partners often report feeling that their entire world has fallen apart, and they don’t know how they’ll ever feel safe again. Often, both wounding and wounded partners report that their sexuality has been deeply impacted by the betrayal. The partner responsible for the infidelity often feels deep remorse, guilt and shame that makes it hard to approach their partner sexually. The wounded partner is often dealing with triggers, intrusive thoughts, and reminders. This is real trauma.
Not all infidelity is the same. Getting down to the root cause of is important for long-term recovery. What may be rooted in a fear of intimacy for one can be rooted in addiction for another. At Becoming Well, we not only specialize in infidelity recovery, but we are trained to deal with addiction, trauma, and intimacy avoidance as well.
