Are you wondering if you’re making a mountain out of a molehill when it comes to the pain you’ve experienced from infidelity? You’re not. At Becoming Well we recognize that infidelity creates real trauma. A traumatic event is usually perceived as life threatening to the traumatized person. Although infidelity doesn’t directly threaten a person’s life, it can threaten their way of life. Wounded partners often report feeling that their entire world has fallen apart, and they don’t know how they’ll ever feel safe again. Often, both wounding and wounded partners report that their sexuality has been deeply impacted by the betrayal. The partner responsible for the infidelity often feels deep remorse, guilt and shame that makes it hard to approach their partner sexually. The wounded partner is often dealing with triggers, intrusive thoughts, and reminders. This is real trauma.